tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post2333851241801264427..comments2023-09-08T04:38:55.306-04:00Comments on The Heron Clan: Fiddler on the RoofUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-50780969319577871232011-03-10T11:14:38.362-05:002011-03-10T11:14:38.362-05:00Tom, who are you? You are a person of worth. You...Tom, who are you? You are a person of worth. You are a peron of value. You are a person who matters so much to his family that they could not throw him away even at his worse. You are a person who has apparently struggled with alcohol since you were a child, and managed to wait this long to treat it because you were strong enough to carry on in the face of it. Try to have faith that the person you are coming to know is someone you will like, will be someone you can count on. I'm sure he will be someone you are proud of. It may take time to find him, but I assure you: he is there.Impish1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-75220250993253892262011-03-09T12:14:21.639-05:002011-03-09T12:14:21.639-05:00Transitioning is hard for everyone in the family. ...Transitioning is hard for everyone in the family. For me it meant I needed to find others who were married to alcoholics to compare notes, to not feel desperately alone. <br /><br />For my husband it meant every waking hour of every day for the first 90 or so days he had to maintain control of his wants vs his needs. He attended 90 meetings during that time and I felt - increadibly left out of his life. <br /><br />That was several years ago, and he has not had a drink since - hang in there it is worth the struggles.Cathttp://up4more.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2008-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-06%3A00&updated-max=2009-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-06%3A00&max-results=50noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-16596070584151964202011-03-08T22:29:15.944-05:002011-03-08T22:29:15.944-05:00Judging from my experience with my own wife, with ...Judging from my experience with my own wife, with whom I have lived for twenty years, whether I love her depends more on what I am than what she is. It's natural, if one is capable of love, that one loves those with whom one has lived for twenty years. My son doesn't have to be anything in particular for me to love him; I guess the same can be said of my wife. It's a different flavour of love, but it's still love. I'm wondering if it's the same with you, and whether if it is, you can explain that to Tom. There really isn't any need, is there, for him to be anything in particular to deserve your love? From where I am sitting, it looks like you love him because he's there, he's been there with you for years, and you have decided long ago to love him. He's been shedding some false persona, but that should make him even more lovable, shouldn't it?<br /><br />By the way, Sue, thank you for your kind words in your last post.Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18156162412655551672noreply@blogger.com