tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post3768614839956146255..comments2023-09-08T04:38:55.306-04:00Comments on The Heron Clan: Maybe It Depends on How You Look at ItUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-16737137155955419172011-10-03T15:10:04.737-04:002011-10-03T15:10:04.737-04:00*I know that there is a common belief, in the life...*I know that there is a common belief, in the lifestyle community, that it is the Dominant partner who leads, and the submissive partner who follows that lead. That may, in fact, be precisely the model that prevails in many of our relationships most of the time, but I have come to believe that it isn't always so. If the goal is to build strong and healthy relationships that endure and work for the partners, then the power flows between them in natural and organic ways, and the leadership can pass back and forth depending on what the circumstances demand. Just as climbers might share the lead in ascending to the summit, so we move in and out of "leadership" roles in our relationship. I have skills and knowledge and wisdom to share, and sometimes it makes sense for me to be the one to take the lead. That doesn't mean I am less slave or that He is less "Master." It only means that each of us offers the best we have to this life we are creating together. *<br /><br />I needed to see it put this way, I think. I've grown frustrated at the lack of leadership in our dynamic to the point where I have pulled back. It didn't make sense to say something was happening (he was the head, the leader, the dominant, etc) when it wasn't actually happening.<br /><br />I am not certain, however, that I can accept that's how it is. Not for us, because I need that dominance. When it's not there, I find I am more unsettled when I am expecting it to be there than if I just admit that's not how it's happening, and determine myself as leader.<br /><br />I am awed that you are so dedicated and strong in your submission that you can see it the way you do. :)<br /><br />sarahsarah thornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07297956738875001690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-42898419181768057242011-10-03T11:47:42.723-04:002011-10-03T11:47:42.723-04:00God, you are so strong, swan.God, you are so strong, swan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-6089811499970892812011-09-26T16:45:25.056-04:002011-09-26T16:45:25.056-04:00You sound so clear and steady. It's good advi...You sound so clear and steady. It's good advice for any of us: we can change no one except ourselves. Thank you for the reminder.Impish1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-26750989947769905522011-09-26T10:26:09.930-04:002011-09-26T10:26:09.930-04:00you were right swan - I just kinda blurted out whe...you were right swan - I just kinda blurted out where I am .... without really thinking about where you are coming from........<br /><br />As always I will read here always and hopefully find some answers to my own quest for peace and fulfillment.morningstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01500052225655763353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-53604177311896821672011-09-26T08:03:51.660-04:002011-09-26T08:03:51.660-04:00swan, this is so beautiful....
'He is still &q...swan, this is so beautiful....<br />'He is still "Master" to me -- always and all ways. That is far more about who and what I am than it is about Him. I belong to Him; bound in heart and mind and body by threads that span our two lives with a strength that is more than steel. The fact that, as I became fearful and hurt and angry and resentful, I pulled myself away from those anchor points does not change the truth of their existence.'<br />I think this underpins so much of what a lot of us wish for our relationships...how lovely to be able to find these feelings when you need them most of all.<br />HSxxa hidden slavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284790679445055018noreply@blogger.com