tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post4679033724464754794..comments2023-09-08T04:38:55.306-04:00Comments on The Heron Clan: A good night last night.............Perhaps even VICTORYUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-85340327008244588142010-09-02T12:00:22.542-04:002010-09-02T12:00:22.542-04:00What a peek into the dynamic! When you give Swan&...What a peek into the dynamic! When you give Swan's IM description of your reactions to limits and punishments, I wonder if it is not because of your dominance in a submitting situation - to your slave/submissive. Swan has said in many of her writings through the years that even if she feels that way she does not act that way because you would not tolerate it, and would not have her as yours if she did. Bratty, defiant, manipulative behavior, I believe she has written, is not something you would cure by punishment, but by banishment. Of course, there are many reasons she chooses not to behave that way. One idea struck me on why it might be happening to you. Take a very dominant man, struggling to submit (not like that comes naturally!), not fearing that his woman is not going to walk away if he reacts that way and you have a new dynamic. Bratty, defiant, manipulative seems a good description of the way many of us feel sometimes on the inside; we're just not acting on it. I imagine behaving the way you both wish during a punishment will come along as a learned behavior. Can't wait to hear the results of your research. Wishing you both peace, calm, and continued good progress.<br />T, too.Impish1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-87722750484815490942010-09-02T10:55:43.717-04:002010-09-02T10:55:43.717-04:00(not a comment to leave up--just a message)
Your ...(not a comment to leave up--just a message)<br /><br />Your blog has become searingly honest and I applaud your openness and your efforts to conquer the problem. But I hope someone keeps in the back of their mind that alcohol "may" (or may not) be a problem bigger than the skill sets you have. In other words, it is possible that extra outside help might be needed.<br /><br />If you solve it on your own, great! More power to you!Leonardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-41806641616202307472010-09-02T09:00:12.675-04:002010-09-02T09:00:12.675-04:00Missed a few handles up there, Sir. :) It's do...Missed a few handles up there, Sir. :) It's doing my heart good to see this. While I can't say I'd be able to stand in swan's shoes, I'd love to see this sort of effort from mine.darahttp://cheshiredreams.comnoreply@blogger.com