tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post8500396568524201299..comments2023-09-08T04:38:55.306-04:00Comments on The Heron Clan: If You Comment -- Things to ConsiderUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-6842940467623358992012-10-25T14:34:35.924-04:002012-10-25T14:34:35.924-04:00Thank you for your generous response to my earlier...Thank you for your generous response to my earlier response. I am going to add one more link in the chain, simply to clarify that when I said "we put ourselves and our own histories into your story" I was not advocating this as a reading strategy. Rather, I was just acknowledging that people often read stories through the lens of their own experiences. I think this is particularly true in this very odd genre: talking about what many people (not me) would consider a non-mainstream topic (euphemism) online. Of course I realize I don't know you. And I don't really want your story to be mine. But I don't think, as a reader, I (or anyone else) can understand what you are saying unless we have something in our own story to connect it to. (I think this is generally true of any kind of story, not just those about sex or whatever it is you write about these days!) <br /><br />I also, though, acknowledge that taking sides isn't a response that helps you, and so I will try not to do that again. I really admire the candor with which you detail your lives for anyone in the world to read about. I don't think I could do that. though I realize this begs the question of why I am so fascinated by reading it.<br /><br />"Miranda"<br /><br />PS And I have read your whole blog, the one that preceded it, and even the one about the gastric bypass. I take stories seriously, and I don't want to start in the middle!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-33542367427300040232012-10-25T08:08:42.580-04:002012-10-25T08:08:42.580-04:00I'm glad you are writing here again although y...I'm glad you are writing here again although your tone is so very sad. <br /> I have no words of wisdom or advice but hope you all can move forward in some way to heal and forgive one another and yourselves for being loving and human at the same time.<br /><br />nancy<br />nbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12817508431335142670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18440943.post-51481948503068893422012-10-25T07:20:52.909-04:002012-10-25T07:20:52.909-04:00Hi Swan,
I agree with most of what you've sai...Hi Swan, <br />I agree with most of what you've said here. And it makes so much sense when you say it. <br /><br />But I want to add one thing and that's how sad you sounded on your blog that day, and how much that might make people feel like they had to say something, anything, to you to "help". That desire to help is real, and well intentioned and sometimes misdirected. <br /><br />I think too, that in the "story" we read here, sometimes there are sides. <br /><br />Not sure where I'm going with this, except to say that I think we all wanted to help. And sometimes we're clumsy in that, or misjudge what will help. My apologies if sometimes I've added to the problem.<br /><br />-sinsinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00082648132476803815noreply@blogger.com