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Celebrating the Easter Holiday

I was raised in the Catholic church.  For me, the liturgical season of lent, especially as it was observed in my childhood, felt an unending darkness and drudgery that worked to extinguish all hope by the end.  Cap it all off by the annual ritualized retelling of the crucifixion, and I was never, as a child, ready to enter into the celebration of Easter.  Candy was nice, but hardly sufficient to shake off the depression to which I was prone in the end of winter and beginning of spring.

The memories remain, and I struggle each year with maintaining my equilibrium through lent -- generally by trying to stay clear of the whole business.  Early imprinting is a tough thing to overcome though, and if I do not DO lent, I feel BAD about doing Easter.

This year though, and this Easter, I am ready to sing that glad "Hallelujah" with the best of them.  It isn't that I've found religion.  I haven't.  If anything, I've got less "faith" now than I did two years ago.  The enforced fraternization with "old time religion" of AA extinguished, for me, any scintilla of affection that I might have still had for the religious traditions of my youth.  I am so done.  And yet...

This year, this day feels like an absolute celebration of new life sprung from the darkness.  This year, the coming of longer days and bright blossoms and budding greenery feels like a release from months of darkness and fear.  This year the feasting will be a feasting in the heart and in the spirit -- beyond the feasting that adorns our table.  This year, oh this year, the coming of spring feels like a pure miracle.  Reason indeed to shout for joy.

So.  I have avoided the gloominess of lent.  I am reclaiming the joy of the spring, and I am welcoming the return of light and beauty.  This is a season of fertility and new birth and life springing forth.  It has nothing at all to do with the tired religion that usurped the rites and celebrations of those who were there before.  It is about living in accord with the life that is, with the world that is, with the universe that enfolds us -- that is us.

We are born again.  Through all the darkness of our own private winter, we are standing fresh and new and alive in the light of this day.  That needs no fancy dressing.  It is reason enough to celebrate.  And so we herons offer a glad "Happy Easter" to all our friends.



  1. He looks just like you :)

    1. Smile... Sometimes I think that too, and it makes my heart glad.


  2. That's what spring should be about...reawakening after the long sleep that is winter. Trees are blooming, birds...doing what they do..aside from pooping on mouse's car...

    And so thrilled that you sound happy...


    1. We are happy, mouse. It is an amazing thing to say... But there it is.


  3. Ordalie3:04 AM

    "The enforced fraternization with "old time religion" of AA extinguished, for me, any scintilla of affection..."
    You may know Anne Archet's blog
    She's quite a reference in the French-speaking BDSM community. She wrote aphorisms and the following one reminded me of what you and Tom wrote here:
    "All the people I know who have been in detox ended up finding God. For me this is the best reason to stay away from drugs."


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