This comment just came through on the Celebrations post:
if that is important, and
if he has spanked you lately, and
if I am childish for even asking. :)
There it is -- that knack that readers here seem to have of going right to the heart of the things that we DO NOT say, and forcing us to tell the truth.
Truth. No. He has not spanked me lately. Really not since this all began. There have been a couple of pretty sad tries. Neither of us seem to be in the right space, although we sometimes dance around the topic with one another -- testing the waters maybe.
Is it important? In the grand scheme of things, probably not. We have a lot facing us just now. On an emotional level, for the sake of our intimate lives together, it feels important to me. Right now though, we are in a medical health crisis. We didn't spank after my appendectomy. We didn't spank after His knee replacement. We didn't spank through the long weeks after His bariatric surgery, when He was hooked to the wound vacuumn, and just working to stay alive. We've had periods of time when serious things forced us to put the spanking part of our lives on hiatus. I need to believe that this is one of those times. I need to believe that, as healing happens and wellness comes to be the norm, we'll find our way back to that part of our sexuality.
As for it being childish to ask, I don't know. It is some significant part of what makes us "us." I don't blame anyone for wondering if we really still are the people we claimed to be for so many years. The problem is that I really don't know the answer to that question yet.