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What is a Spanking?

I've been getting spanked, and spanking, inside of this relationship for over ten years.  I can't even begin to think about or count how many spankings that must be.  We've spanked across a wide spectrum of "styles" from erotic to disciplinary, and we've used just about every spanking implement there is.  We've used bondage furniture of various kinds, and we've done the almost "traditional" over the knee thing.  If there's a way to spank, probably that has happened in our house.  I've been inclined to think about spanking as just that -- spanking.  Period.  End of discussion.

And then, this morning, waking up slowly and snuggling and rubbing and thinking about an impending spanking, it dawned on me that, at least for me, a spanking is way more than JUST a spanking.  A spanking is ...
pain pleasure touch heat surrender battle obedience submission connection sex thud sting burn rhythm mystery energy dance power discipline joy anger fear triumph hope glory beauty shame prelude finale percussion muscles skin nerves heart mind breath physics love hate gravity resilience balance danger safety defiance risk trust gift ...  

Did I miss any?  I am sure I must have.  Feel free to add to the list.


  1. Replies
    1. Well, Duh, Hil! How could I have missed that one? Sheesh!


  2. How about Wonderful?

    Now that I've caught up on the past couple months of backlog I can leave a comment) Although I"m sure it depends on ones perspective and the reason for the spanking. Speaking for myself.. I find them highly enjoyable!

    This reminds me that we are going to a Fet Life party this coming Sat...
    Spanksgiving! Teeeheee.. our first one here in TX. So much to be spankful for this year indeed. For you and for us!

    I am very glad to read that you are all moving to a good place together. Time, therapy, serendipity and love can do amazing things! So good to read that Tom is finding a mental tools to help deal with his PTSD,and swan reveling in her spanking spaces too. Kudos to the bunch of you!

    (And thanks swan... it's good to be back for sure!)
    Warm hugs to all,

  3. This is nice, this reminder that spanking is more than just the physical act.



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