to scheme or plan to get something; to "fish" for something.
The angling has introduced a new level of uncertainty and ambiguity into our power-based dynamic. Now we have to not only negotiate the approach to a spanking encounter; we also have to navigate through the shallows and currents around WHO plays which role. We are learning to try and balance the energy between us; keeping a sort of informal accounting of who got spanked last, or who is feeling more needy, or more toppy, or...
I'm not too sure what I think of all of that most days. Not sure that He's sure either. We are wandering along through a world that seems to have very few boundaries, where what was clearly defined now seems entirely movable and malleable. Where we once "exchanged" power, we are now more likely to try and power balance.