Contact Info --

Email us --

Our Other Blogs --
We are three adults living in a polyamorous triad family. The content here is intended for an adult audience. If you are not an adult, please leave now.


What Would You Call ... ?

As the firestorm of public (and especially media) outrage has swirled around  Congressman Anthony Weiner -- the now infamous sexter of lewd crotch pictures to some undefined number of women, I have giggled and snickered and rolled my eyes right along with everyone else.  There are so many words that one might choose to describe the enormity of Weiner's so-very-public misstep:  outrageous, disgusting, appalling.  Even if you are not inclined to convict the man and pillory him along with just about everyone else, it is pretty easy to declare that his decision to broadcast pictures of "himself" all over the place using a forum like Facebook was just monstrously STUPID. 

I, however, don't think that stupid equals criminal, and while I might question the ethics, integrity, and judgment of Congressman Weiner, I am not convinced that there is any legitimate reason to force him to resign his position.  As the poor, foolish congressman slinks away for treatment, I just keep thinking that those of us who have spent time in the lifestyle have some experience with the sort of character that behaves as Anthony Weiner did -- the ones who send penis pictures before they even manage to say "hello."  One of the best definitional pieces on these guys was written by MadSci Dom, and then re-published at Shogun Lord's Website:

"We call them Snerts.  We call them HNG’s (Horny Net Geeks).  We call them Wannabes.  We call them Control Freaks.  And sometimes, tragically, we even find some that can only be called rapists and predators... Snerts are basically looking for easy sex.  They are looking for ‘easy lays.’    They are typically middle aged to somewhat older men.  They are often married.    They are usually trying to bolster their flagging vanilla sex lives with some casual screwing around... HNG’s are usually harmless.  Most are teenagers and young men looking for some quick cyber-sex or even phone-sex...  Control freaks are what most psychologists and therapists call ‘controlling personalities.’    They are the type of person that wants to be in control of everything around them.   They want all their family and friends to behave exactly as they say.   They are extremely manipulative people...  As for rapists and predators, they are evil, and there is NO easy way to spot them.  Rapists can be anything from bums to bank mangers, and anyone from family members to total strangers.  Their motive is violence."

What would you say, given that list?  What would you call Anthony Weiner?  Is there a description there that works to describe the actions, choices, and apparent drives and appetites of the poor fellow?  

If I had to choose from that list, I'd pick the Snert.  Snert's are older, although not really wiser, than their adolescent counterparts -- the HNG's.  Clearly, Weiner is no kid.  He is definitely old enough to know better.  I don't know if he was looking for "easy lays," and I have no idea if he was trying to bolster a "flagging sex life."  It does seem that he wasn't trying to establish deep and lasting relationships with women for whom he had great respect.  

Yeah, I'd say that, if Anthony Weiner were "one of us" lifestylers, he'd be quickly and definitively labeled a "Snert:"  out looking for "easy lays" (because there's an app for that).



  1. LOL I love the parting shot of "there's an app for that"

    I say the man is guilty of poor judgement and adolescent behaviour - should he leave his job because of it??? I don't know... was he doing a good job??? I am a firm believer that most adults can and do separate their sex/private lives from their work persona....... BUT then he isn't my congressman - hell I don't even have a congressman... so I am staying out of that debate...

  2. very funny ending! I feel bad for him...a bit...yes it was so so so stupid. Maybe he was a bit of an adrenaline junkie....'maybe i'll get i won't"

    i felt bad for Tiger Woods too, as he seemed to have a very D/s bent, on the side...and i very much relate to that (but being on the small s side ...)

    We're such a strange society, aren't we? Taking a basic, human need, and vilifying it. Not that there aren't villians out there...for there are...but sex should be freer than it is.


  3. Oh yes, mouse has been remotely following the story. At first the claim his twitter account was hacked. Uh huh. There was no way mouse bought that one...

    What mouse feels horrible for is his wife, family...He made a big mistake. Maybe the hub-bub has more to do with his political party than anyone actually caring about what he did.

    Personally, mouse feels strongly it should be up to the people in his district to decide. So, should he resign? No, wait until the election and let the voters speak. If the voters in his district call, by legitimate means, for him to step down, then he should to avoid the mess of a recall election.


  4. Anonymous12:36 PM

    I think guys sending a woman unasked for pics of their junk is creepy and icky. I don't care what their kink is, but you don't push it onto unwilling people. If she's willing, hell yeah, go for it, who cares. Although I have a feeling his wife didn't know and that's another bad thing.

    But that's not why I think he should resign, it's because as you said, Swan, he's just so immensely STUPID not to realize he'd get caught. That's who we want representing us in government today? Somebody THAT bone-headed and dense that he had no idea that everyone could see who he follows, how dangerous it was for him to be doing it at all and how eventually he was sure to get caught? He didn't see that coming? What a moron! Srsly!



Something to add? Enter the conversation with us.