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What is OK in Public?
This outing was a shared "anniversary" treat for the three of us, and it was meant to be a pleasant and fun time. We arrived at the ballpark on schedule, and found our way to our seats. We got settled in and waited for the pre-game festivities to end. Everything seemed just about perfect... and then THEY arrived.
THEY appeared to be a group of once and former sorority girls, apparently out for a bachelorette party at the ball park. Of the four, one was wearing a wedding ring, and then there was the "guest of honor," still intent on making sure that her diamond was on display at every possible opportunity. The other two young women in the party were, apparently unattached. One was quiet and unobtrusive, but the other was wild, hyperactive, noisy, and (as the evening progressed) increasingly drunk and disorderly.
After all, a public venue, like a ball game, is just that. It is public. We generally count on people to exercise good judgement and practice good manners in such a setting, so that everyone can enjoy being in whatever public place. When people deliberately choose to behave badly in a public place, their behavior choices impact everyone around them. The truth is, though, that, for most people, there is that option. Those young women were able to choose to ignore our feelings, and simply indulge themselves in their self-absorbed nonsense -- and no one was going to stop them. Being rude is not a crime.
Which has had me thinking... Our family is careful to keep our lifestyle under wraps out in public. We don't go out in public places dressed up in our fetish gear. We don't practice bondage in public. We don't carry paddles or floggers around attached to our belts. We don't usually hold each other's hands, except as couples. We are careful not to expose ourselves to any sort of persecution, and we are careful not to impose our lifestyle choices on anyone else, even insofar as to make those choices apparent to the casual or unsuspecting observer.
Why should that be so?
Why should it be "OK" for a bunch of ill-mannered, inebriated, privileged, young women to completely and utterly disregard the comfort and rights of others around them in a public setting, while it is somehow viewed as totally inappropriate for us to display the slightest signs or symbols of who we are? In what ways does our "overt" display of our lifestyle choice violate the rights of other people in a public place? Do we, in showing our true selves, obstruct their view? Do we interfere with their enjoyment of the public facility? Do we disturb the peace?
Am I the only one who sees the inequity?