About Blogroll Links

He just noticed that sometime in the last little bit of time the link to our blog has been taken down from Spanking Blog.

Wow! We've been linked from Spanking Blog from very early in the life of this endeavor. Even though, as anyone who reads us with any regularity knows, we write very sporadically about spanking per se, somehow, we were included there for a very long time.

Now, it isn't like we invest a whole lot of energy in the business of "link-whoring." Links to other places on our blog come and go, and are entirely dependent on our sense of interest and connection to the other writers that we encounter. We don't keep links up that we don't have some sort of attachment to, and we don't maintain a gigantic blogroll of sites that we don't ever read. Really, Spanking Blog is a place that He likes. I very seldom ever go there, but the link remains precisely because it is a site that He enjoys.

So. The sort of empty sadness that comes from finding no reciprocal link back is not about not understanding the situation. We know and understand that our little chronicle isn't a good fit for someplace as dedicated to "pure" spanking as Spanking Blog is. We know that the "cut" isn't personal. We know about the kinds of dynamics that drive these kinds of connections. It is just a given that a site as BIG as THE Spanking Blog sure as heck doesn't need us. Still, it feels a little like having walked a long path with a familiar companion, and then having the paths diverge. That divergence is tinged with a sense of loss.


Be sure, He'll keep tabs on the doings at Spanking Blog. That won't change. And, I imagine that none of the Spanking Blog visitors will ever miss the fact that they can't come cruising in to find out about the doings in our little corner of the world.

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