Gosh, Life is Good

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our daily grind, that we start to lose sight of so much of what is really good about our love and our life together. When that happens, it is really good for us to take a giant step back and pay attention to the wonderful gift that is our life together.

We are people who find joy in the simplest things, and we love sharing that with one another. The pleasures of family, funny stories, the successes and struggles of our assorted careers, our shared interests in people and politics and the life of our community are all things that we share with each other and take great joy in.

We are "for" one another. We make sure that, in the midst of all the busyness of our days, we check in with one another, share bits and pieces of news, keep track of who is where -- doing what. We cheer for each other, sympathize with one another, pull for "us." We pick up the load for each other whenever that is appropriate. We shop and manage laundry and haul the trash for the whole household, and we don't keep "score." There is a "mutual" sort of care that is passed around our small circle so that none of us ever stands alone against the world.

We fight fair. It isn't that we don't ever disagree. We are just human beings, and we have human faults and failings and weaknesses. There are times (mercifully, not frequent) when we get "crosswise" with one another. We have had and will have our battles with one another. When that happens, we roll up our sleeves and sort out what happened. We talk. We sort out feelings and we examine the communications and we listen to one another. We don't bury our disagreements, and we don't let them fester. We know that, however difficult it might be, we can and must work it out between us.

We play together, and not just in the BDSM sense of the word. We find things to do that are enjoyable for us all, and we make sure that we take the time to go and do those things that are fun and lighten our days.

All of that seems pretty mundane to us most of the time. It is the stuff that we use to weave the whole cloth of our life together. It is not especially sexy or exciting or kinky. It is just us, making our way together. We sometimes get into the rhythm of our lives and then it starts to seem pretty ordinary. We let the sense of how wondrous and fabulous it is for us to be who we are together slip away.

Tonight, after the experiences of the last week, we are awash in a renewed sense of amazement and pure gratitude for the miracle that is our life together.

swan