The encouraging thing is that with each call, I can hear him transforming his thinking, seeing things in a different way, coming to a new understanding. Each time we talk, he relays to me stories of people and events that are touching him and helping him to learn about himself -- and perhaps see a path forward.
- On the very first day, there was a man who spoke to him of recovery and AA. That man was released the next day.
- On the second day, there was a man who is recovering from an addiction to cocaine who asked Tom for help with his resume. Working together on this very prosaic task seemed to give Tom some sense of calm and a feeling of self-worth.
- In the middle of the night, when the authorities came to wake him up and move him to another place, he found, inexplicably lying on the bare bunk, a bible.
- Early the next morning, one of the men that shares his room, offered him a warm shirt so that he might be a bit more comfortable.
- The library contained a book by John Bradshaw, called Homecoming, and reading that seems to be offering a depth of insight and understanding.
- This morning he had the opportunity to attend a meeting with three men from AA. It seems it was an emotional experience. They left him with a copy of the AA Big Book.
I don't know what any of that will end up meaning. I am hoping that this is a beginning of a new path ahead for us all. We have huge obstacles to overcome -- legal and financial, as well as personal. Nothing is likely to be resolved quickly. Perhaps I am grasping at straws, but I am collecting these bits of encouragement and holding them close.