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9/29/2008

I am in Love!



I've always been convinced that the very first, and most important job that I have, as an educator is to fall in love with my students. In each new school year, I have to, very quickly, come to the place where I look forward with real anticipation to seeing them each morning; the place where I wonder how they are; the place where I know their stories, understand their fears, and share their dreams.

Sometimes, that involves real work. Not all classes, and not all students, are easy to love. I manage to get there with every group.

This year, though, I am absolutely, head over heels in love with my class. They came with all sorts of labels and warnings attached. That is the reality when you teach 6th grade: all sorts of advance press precedes the arrival of every new group. What I was told about these kiddos was that they were "sweet but not very bright, charming but not very organized, compliant but not very motivated." It was that sort of "damning with faint praise" kind of characterization that had me thinking, back in early August, "well that's interesting, but I want to see them for myself."

Well -- they are wonderful! They work. Hard. They talk to me and they ask questions and they listen to the responses. They wonder about all kinds of things, and they seem genuinely interested in the world in which they find themselves. They are kind and helpful and willing to try just about anything. They are remarkably trusting -- if I tell them that we are going to do this or study that or look at something over here, they just come right along with eager hearts and heads. Wow! This bunch makes every single day a joy and a pleasure.

I am in love! What a great and fabulous gift life has handed me with this year's 6th grade class. We are going to have a great year, and we are going to be awfully lucky to have each other.

swan

15 comments:

  1. Anonymous3:39 PM

    Swan, if only every teacher could be like you, I beleive the world would be a better place!

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  2. Anonymous4:37 PM

    how wonderful to share your passion for teaching and for young people!

    my only caveat as a parent of a middle-schooler - and i say this with real admiration of you, acceptance of your lifestyle, and with a sisterhood in kink, AND as dear as they look - i might be a bit startled to find my kid's picture on your otherwise very adult website, especially without their or my consent. i'm just sayin' ...

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  3. Oh for pete's sake, Traveler -- it is just a generic picture of some kids who are about the right age. They probably are real kids, but not MY kids. They surely could be MY kids, but it's a "representation" -- an image that I found using Google images.

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  4. Anonymous8:40 PM

    I don't think Traveler's concern is off base. As a parent that's the first thing I thought of.

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  5. Well yeah, that concern would make sense if you assumed that swan was so stupid and unprofessional as to actually post real picutres of her students on an adult Blog.

    Excuse me for being inpolite, but ARE YOU NUTS????

    Tom

    Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.

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  6. Swan,

    Well now I know where your patience with my ignorance of power exchange relationships comes from. I would love you to be a teacher to my kids. I have one in high school, one in middle school and a kindergardener. Some teachers are of course wonderful and share your passion but through the years I've also seen many with such apathy towards the kids that I wanted to pull my hair out. Maybe when you're done with the kids you should teach teachers how to relate to students in order to bring out their true potential.

    Suzanne

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  7. Hi Suzanne -- I do love the work of teaching. For me, it is a second career that I came to after years in the corporate arena. I earned far better money working in the oil and gas industry, but after 18 years there, I found that I dragged myself out of bed each morning believing that the work I did really meant nothing at all. I never feel that way in my classroom. There is really nothing all that difficult about what I do as a teacher. I look at each of my students and remember to smile and really see them as the people they are. I try to remember to look each child in the eye and call them by name at least once each day. Seeing them -- really seeing them -- makes it impossible not to invest in their well-being, their happiness, and their success. It is work, yes, but it is work that brings me joy.

    swan

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  8. Anonymous10:45 PM

    forgive me for even thinking for a moment you'd post pictures of your actual students!

    ::: removing head from anus ... this make take a while :::

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  9. wandering traveler you are a frequent and good contributor here. When I popped off so vehemently about this, I was responding to Mr./Ms. Anonymous, not you.

    You know, we all sometimes say something that later on we wish perhaps we'd said differently.

    I'd rather have you feeling you can come here and react honestly, than that you have to walk on egg shells.

    Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

    Tom

    Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.

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  10. swan -

    i just wanted to comment to swtsuz - about you teaching teachers how to relate......

    i believe it has been done... way before they hit the classrooms.. It saddens me how many teachers i see that only see the bad side of the children.. who only see their prickly difficult bits..

    It would seem some are worse than others... and it puzzles me - honestly - if they would only take a minute or two to (as swan says) look in their eyes - call them by name.. and once in a while look deep inside and see what baggage they carry with them..

    how could they NOT want to teach... guide.. and mentor ??

    that is one of the world's great mysteries.. to me that is..


    morningstar (owned by Warren)

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  11. Actually, I've always thought it was the fact that swan was spared being trained by educators, to be an educator, that is the key to her success.

    Swan was a corporate executive who 18 years ago, literally walked out of here office, abandoned her job, and began to teach. She'd always wanted to teach. Her parents whouldn't hear of her wasting her intellect on becoming a
    "lowly teacher."

    She has no "teaching credential." Now she is not uneducated with degress including business, economics, and engineering in her formal education, she's actually much more highly educated in "non-education" disciplines than most of her colleagues. But she cannot teach in a regular public school. Her career in parochial schools is because it is where they'll let her have kids. She routinely takes kids, who others have declared lost causes, or in need of "special accomodation," and has them excelling in their studies, an improvement that is almost always preceded by their feeling way better about themselves as people. I don't mean to make this sound like everything is always a giant group hug in her classroom (only about 90% of the time.) She works hard at engaging students and usually succeeds, preventing a lot of behavior issues, but pushed to the wall she is a ruthless disciplinarian (yeah, that's my girl:)

    As a graduate of undergraduate and post graduate study in colleges of Education myself, I've always thought it was swan's lack of study of "education" and experience in business that made her the exceptionally efective educator that she is.

    All the best,

    Tom

    Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.

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  12. Anonymous3:44 PM

    Swan
    I have been reading your post for awhile. You are a gifted writer and no doubt very intelligent. I enjoy your thought provoking posts and I read your comments on some of the sites I frequent. I agree with Sara the world needs more teachers like you. I have no doubt that your students are in love with you as well. I think kids instinctively know who love them and who to love.
    Enjoy your blog.
    Can I add it to my blogroll?
    Ciao
    I Gal

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  13. I Gal-- Of course! I'd be delighted to have you link to our blog.

    Welcome!

    swan

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  14. I have long admired your passion for teaching as expressed in this blog. For that matter - I admire your whole family's commitment to community service. I have often wondered if you are fearful of posting pictures of yourself online. I like seeing your happy family. Yet I fear some ignorant and judgemental people (and there are lots of them out there - like Anon!) will somehow identify you through this blog and use it to threaten your job. I also understand not wanting to live your life in the shadows and being afraid to express who you are. Do you ever worry about kids or parents finding your blog? Just curious.

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  15. Anonymous10:42 PM

    thank you, Tom, for your clarification! when i saw the anonymous post in my RSS reader, i confess i was paranoid! but, a quick visit to your actual site here and a look over the comments set me straight. (or as straight as i'll get). as i said, silly me for thinking swan would post pictures of her actual students. that was a silly thing for me to think!

    and thank you all for always being so well considered in your writing, honest and real.

    best to you & your excellent family!

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